How it looks like:
You meet reality. Everyday tasks feel like a battle. Still, until you find out how local bureaucracy works, you might feel like a Kafka character or like Rambo, depending on your attitude.
You start seeing the country and people around as they are, not perfect, not as you thought they would be. La dolce filet starts disappearing.
You keep misunderstanding people around you, and cannot understand what they want from you. No matter how long you have studied Italian in school or university, you probably will get the jokes after deep reflections, and miss the non-verbal language of gestures. Sometimes, you’re even unable to order at a restaurant without advertising as ‘’straniera’’, and you end up feeling uncomfortable and insecure.
What to do about:
Now, slow down for a moment and realize how far you came: You said goodbye to your loved ones and entered this big, new adventure of moving abroad and starting to live in a completely new environment. This is a huge thing! You’re amazing coping with this on your own. Look at you!
The second thing to do is to keep observing and learning. The fact you don’t understand people around you doesn’t mean they are rude or they hate you. Every culture has its own unwritten rules. Things, which are considered funny might result in offence in other cultures and vice versa.
You just need to figure out how things work here.
It will take time to feel home again, but eventually, it will happen.